HOW TO USE TINDER: Hi I’m one of the lead coaches with the dating coaching company Love Systems and I’m going to give you a really quick tutorial on how to use tinder. I’m gonna show you how to install tinder and I’m also going to show you how to set up your profile and give you some simple tips that you can use to start meeting people on tinder right away.
The Tinder app is an amazing opportunity for your dating life if you know how to do use it properly there are millions of people of all ages and different types all around the world using tinder, but it is also frustrating for a lot of people because you don’t necessarily get matched with people on Tinder unless you know how to do things right. So, let’s just start from the beginning, I’m going to show you how to install Tinder onto your phone. First, you want to go into the app store and you want to find the tinder app through the search feature. So you have the tinder app right here in the app store you go in and you download it.
You might want to have Wi-Fi available for doing this it’s about 60 megabytes right now which is not terribly large. And it should just download in a few minutes whether you are on your cellular network or on Wi-Fi. Now that you have downloaded the Tinder app you can open it and start to set up your profile so the first thing you want to do is you need to log in with Facebook. Now, I recommend that you use your real Facebook profile to log into Tinder, it is going to give you automatic access to all your pictures and is going to automatically exclude your friends from finding you on Tinder which is an advantage.
But, it will tell, right now, it will tell you when you have a second connection, so the Friends of your friends are going to be notified that you have a friend in common most people find this actually helps a lot because it allows you to have something in common when you’re chatting with a stranger but it is something that sometimes people for privacy reasons they don’t like, but I highly recommend you will get more dates if you log in with your original Facebook and get all those photographs we added to your profile so log in with Facebook may be asked for your password at this point you want to answer it and now you see you allowed to use your location will use you want to have that you want to give Tinder the permission to send you notifications as well. So, once you’ve linked tinder with your Facebook account you’re gonna want to take a look make a profile so I already have a profile set up here but I can show you the steps involved in creating a Tinder profile.
So, the first thing you want to do you want to select your Tinder profile picture. The first thing you’re going to want to pick your photographs. Tinder does a really good job of taking the best photograph and putting into the front so eventually you’re gonna find the photographs that get the most reactions from the opposite sex, but at the beginning you kind of have to guess, so the best photographs are usually once that have to start from your chest show your face clearly have you looking at the camera you don’t want to have photographs that have you way off in the distance so people can’t tell what you look like bad lighting or anything like that I’m so the photograph that the Tinder picked for me is this one here and it’s me it’s a great combination of a bunch of features is me I’m looking straight at the camera you can see my face very very clearly i look like i’m having a good time I’ve got a friend with me which makes me look like a social person and i’m also got a little bit of an interesting background these kinds of photos are really the best selfies can be okay photographs with friends can be really good but it also when it comes to friends you know you want to make sure that the person knows which one you are right if it’s if it’s just long shot with eight friends or something like that, that doesn’t really highlight your physical features so there’s some debate as to whether you should put topless photographs in your tinder profile some guys kind of works really well other guys plan is really douchey the best way to to get both sides that is take a photograph where you have an excuse to have your shirt off, so if you’re at the beach if you’re playing sports if you’re out having fun that’s the kind of time when you might be able to fit in a tasteful shirtless top I’m not necessarily advocating it guys but i know from a lot of experience this works ok the next thing you’re going to want to add is a little spiel about yourself now you don’t want to go too long but it can really help if you say the right things women if they are interested in your profile photo they will read this and they will make some kind of judgment as to who you are as a person based on what they see.
So, I like to tell guys it’s really important that you start with something punch or something interesting so I put on the top of my profile “not boring” that is something that has worked really well for me a really good strategy to use that message “me if” line in your profile message me if you’re like this or like that’s the kind of thing that women also respond to it let’s just let them show lets you show that you’re actually looking for a certain kind of person if that kind of person comes across it they’re gonna be way more likely to message you. So you might say ” message me if you have good taste in music”, “message me you like the outdoors” these are the kinds of things that can make you stand out of the crowd for the kind of person that you’re interested in dating. So eventually if you swipe right enough people you’re going to get a match alright and what you want to do at that point is you want to send a message Now, here is the advice for how to send messages to women on Tinder. The first thing you don’t want to do is you don’t want to send her “hey what’s up” because that is what 99% of guy said you also don’t want to send other things that sound like “hey what’s up” like “hey how’s it going?” “How are you doing?” “Having fun?” “what’s your day like?” Ok? These all are “hey what’s up ?” – You want to distinguish yourself. Attractive women get dozens and dozens of messages today and if you can just be a little bit different you’re gonna get way more responses ok so a good way to start is to have a little bit of emotion, it’s also going to have a little challenge to the message that you send to her on Tinder so you can also look through the profile and see what you are what you find now this woman, in particular, she’s got nothing here reading just got her Instagram so let’s send her a message I’m going to send her sarcastic message that says, “I just read your profile and I feel like I’ve known you forever” and also I’m going give her a little wink, just in case she doesn’t get that.
So, to be perfectly honest Tinder is a little bit of a numbers game so don’t get too fixated on anyone as soon as you send the message just move on keep on swiping your Tinder matches and see what you can find another match once you make that match, that’s really where the hard work starts because a lot of guys have a hard time getting women to reply back to their messages and also getting women once they are in a conversation to meet up for a date and that’s one of the things that we cover in a lot of detail in our book matches the tender book for men where we go really into a lot of that have a set of the profile so you get the maximum number of matches but then also to once you’re getting these matches how to actually build the comfort the attraction the interest, the trust that is required to go from an online dating app to a real date it is something that any guy can do, but it’s also something that does require a little bit of skill requires a little bit of understanding what women are thinking at any given moment and understanding some of the games women tend to play online let’s be honest this stuff happens so if you’re interested you should check out Matches the Tinder Book for Men and where we go a lot more detail or check out some of the other videos in this series you like this video please out both please subscribe so we make more thanks a lot!